For those of you who are in relationships or who are about to get into relationships, asking a simple question such as: ‘What’s the best gift your partner can give you?‘ might lead to a few pages worth of descriptions of ‘THINGS’ which you might want from a partner.
Most people would just compose a list of items which may include perfumes, jewelry, books, eatables, phones, gadgets, accessories, flowers, clothes, etc and so on…This is a common habit amongst many girls and women nowadays, as well as the less indulgent men who would expect their partner to shower them with gifts….This seems to be a common trend in today’s relationships where most partners would judge the value of being in the relationship by what they get…. or what they can TAKE from it.
I have seen a lot of people in unhappy relationships with the root cause being that ‘the partner did not meet their expectations‘…..and sadly in most cases, material expectations. Girls today complain about what they bf couldn’t get them, or sometimes even Boys complain about what their girls didn’t buy them….and even amongst matured relationships even your spouse tends to judge you based on what you could or could not buy them. And that is just the worst way to define a relationship.
But if you really look at the value of those items which you would expect your partner to give you, at the end of the day its something that has a price tag on it….. it has a finite value…… and sadly most people nowadays measure their relationship success rate based tangible values and on expectations which harbor on value taking.
The only one thing in this world that can be granted as a most valuable gift to another is: your TIME. Time is the one thing which can be given and never taken back. Time once spent is gone for ever and no amount of wealth or technology can ever bring it back to you. So, if your partner tends to spend more time with you and share their moments with you to the best that they can then you should LEARN to appreciate it beyond all else 🙂 ….. Reason being, the time they spend on you is something that they can never take back from their lives, and their willingness to give it to you without any cost is what should be appreciated beyond all else.
At the end of the day, the happiness that money can give is just as finite as your supply of money. It is momentary. But the happiness you can get from knowing someone is willing to be there with you and spend minutes of their lives which they can never take back should give you appreciation beyond all else. Sometimes we are so blind as to not see the value of such an act, but as they say, you only realize the value of something when its gone. Time is both quick to come and quick to go. So happy times now could even change in a matter of days or weeks, or bad times now could even change in a couple of days or weeks. Everything is unexpected….but its up to you to pave the way that your relationship should go.
So my advice to anyone who disregards the value of the time that your partner spends on you….. remember that real love is never selfish…. and it does not depend on material aspects or money….. So if you think that being in a relationship means being there for the benefits then you’d better pack your bags and have a sizable amount of tissues for the long haul cos your relationship would probably not last long, or even if it does it would not be stable or happy. This not only applies to love and romance but even to family. Your kids will never stay the same, they’ll grow up – so be there for them when it really matters. Your parents will not always be young – so appreciate them for all they have done for you to take care of you, bring you up and make you the person you are today. They are not waste, nor garbage to throw out when your done with them, they’ve given their time and love to you so make sure you appreciate all that while it matters. Don’t just shower them with gifts to make up for your lack of ability to do something with them.
If you truly love someone or if they truly love you, they would never be with you for the sake of getting gifts nor demand you to harvest your pockets for them, they would be happy with doing something simple and fun and all that would matter is just the fact that you are there with them 🙂 Love should be about how anyone FEELS about you, not about what you gift to them….not about what you give, but about what you do 🙂
Hathara Wate 